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Celeste Headlee began her journalism career in 1999 and has worked as a reporter, producer, and host in public radio on the local, national, and international level. In 2015, she delivered a TED talk for on how to have better conversations that has received millions of online views.
We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations That...
CELESTE HEADLEE is an award-winning journalist, professional speaker and the author of We Need To Talk: How To Have Conversations That Matter, and Do Nothing: How to Break Away from Overworking, Overdoing, and Underliving. An expert in conversation, human nature, reclaiming our common humanity and finding well-being, Celeste frequently provides insight on what is good for all humans and what is bad for us, focusing on the best research in neuro and social science to increase understanding of how we relate with one another and can work together in beneficial ways in our workplaces, neighborhoods, communities and homes. She is a regular guest host on NPR and American Public Media and a highly sought consultant, advising companies around the world on conversations about race, diversity and inclusion. Her TEDx Talk sharing 10 ways to have a better conversation has over 23 million total views, and she serves as an advisory board member for ProCon.org and The Listen First Project. Celeste is the recipient of the 2019 Media Changemaker Award. She is the proud granddaughter of composer William Grant Still, the Dean of African American Composers.
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ANDERSON: I mean, I think one of the things I appreciated about the docuseries is how, like, rooted in Blackness it is. I feel like when we were initially having conversations about Bill Cosby, about R. Kelly, about Michael Jackson over the last few years, there always seemed to be a different conversation happening in white spaces versus Black spaces. And I think the docuseries does a good job of particularly contextualizing what it is like for us as Black folks to have this conversation about Bill Cosby in terms of what he represented, what he gave back to Black people and Black communities, and how there's a unique kind of consternation that we have when we're answering that question of who Bill Cosby is because of that unique and particular context. So I think Kamau and his team - they did a great job of, like, you know, building that specificity around this conversation.
DEGGANS: Yeah, I met him when he was doing this late-night show for FX called "Totally Biased." So it was kind of cool to reconnect with him and see him doing something that I think is sort of a culmination of everything he's been doing as an artist up to this point - the stand-up that he's done where he talks a lot about race and talks a lot about gender, the show that he's done for CNN. He goes out and tries to have uncomfortable conversations and move things forward - and talking about structural racism and talking about issues affecting people of color. And now he's found a documentary where he was able to pull all of that together.
HARRIS: Yeah. I mean, what I found really interesting - the way in which he really puts all of these things very much side by side, and so even when he goes off down this road of, like, talking about the Black stunt people - and then, like, also at one point, he interviews a couple of former Playboy Bunnies. But then it turns into, like, this whole backstory that I don't think we necessarily needed about the Playboy history and lore where I was like, it felt kind of long. But even when he goes down those rabbit holes, he's still stopping and taking a beat to have this visual timeline of the accusers and the victims.
HILL: We always hear the conversations about, well, why now or why didn't someone say something or why didn't you tell somebody? And I thought what was so brilliant about each of them telling their stories was they all talked about how they felt afterward - and so often how Bill would guide them into their guilt, if you will - right? - by talking about, oh, you had too much to drink or oh, you blacked out or oh, you behaved x-y-z way. In one of those stories, she said, like, he talked about how I drank too much, and I had immediately come into this conversation ready to berate him and be like, how dare you do what you did? And then when he said that to me, it made me feel tiny, right? And I was like, oh.
HARRIS: Yeah. I think it's safe to say that even after this docuseries, at least for me, I still have complicated feelings about him. But I think that what is really great about the docuseries is that it engages with those things, and I think it's definitely worth checking out if you have any sort of interest in these conversations around who we believe and also who we idolize.
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Choose the right time. Both people need to be relaxed and comfortable. Ideally, the conversation should take place indoors after all other priorities are taken care of. Any situation that makes either person physically uncomfortable will make the conversation that much more difficult. For example, imagine if you decided to have the talk before dinner. You might be eager to express your feelings, but your partner might only be thinking of when they are going to eat.
Some warmlines have limits on the amount of time you can call. For example, they might tell you up-front that they can only speak to you for an hour. Others have unlimited time and do not stop conversations until you are ready.
If meaningful conversations are so rewarding and beneficial, how can we have more of them? For many of us, considering the amount of time we spend around other people, these quality conversations are frustratingly rare and elusive. But the good news is, with a little effort and a few new approaches, we can find ways to enjoy them more often.
Efficient leaders talk in terms of solutions or rote lists of desired outcomes. Effective leaders teach their people to think strategically, and they do this by asking questions. "How do you think we should move forward?" "What expertise might be needed?" "What thoughts do you have about how to proceed?" "How might we approach this differently?" Leadership is a conversation, not a "to-do" list. - Cathy McCullough, McCullough Group LLC
As leaders, we often miss the opportunity to tie work assignments back to an employee's professional development plan. Our employees are hungry for growth opportunities. Saying, "I need you to take on this assignment," is far different from saying "I have you taking on this assignment because in our last one-on-one, you told me you wanted to get your hands on more strategic work." - Tegan Trovato, Workplace Forward
People have different communication preferences. Some focus on logic, facts and numbers, while others prefer to focus on people and relationships. Some employees need to hear details and a structured step-by-step approach from their leader, and others simply prefer the big picture. Ask your direct reports what they most need to hear from you, then tailor your words and approach to suit their needs. - Loren Margolis, Training & Leadership Success LLC
I am a U.K.-based journalist with a longstanding interest in management. In a career dating back to the days before newsroom computers I have covered everything from popular music to local politics. I was for many years an editor and writer at the \"Independent\" and \"Independent on Sunday\" and have written three books, the most recent of which is \"What you need to know about business.\"
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This is really good. Having to build sentences out of a pool of fragments is a surprisingly engaging way of doing video game conversations. I had to think very seriously about each option in a way I probably wouldn't have if it was just a regular dialogue tree. Games about a relationship already in progress are rare so it's nice to play one written with great attention to detail. If I had to say one thing it's that I got the best ending on the first try so maybe it's a bit too easy? I'm not sure.
Whether you want to discuss lingering hurt feelings or a sudden change of heart, you'll want to start the convo off on the right foot. Of course, telling your partner that you "need to talk" probably isn't going to get them in the right frame of mind. As Nicole Richardson, licensed marriage and family therapist, previously pointed out to Elite Daily, It will lead your partner to think you want to break up. And if you want to work things out, hurting them is more likely to cause additional damage." Next time you and boo need to have a serious talk, try one of these texts instead. 041b061a72